Child residential care establishments in many countries declared insolvent because orphans out of them poorly socialized. The biggest problems, as noted by many experts are an involuntary education parasitical attitude to life of children and a complete lack of self-sufficiency. Orphans have a low level of life skills, it is difficult to independently overcome the difficulties, there are psychological barriers during communicating with other people, and they are affected by criminal organizations and swindlers.
The Foundation “Dara” in conjunction with the public movement “The child should live in a family” since 2014 implements the project “Mentors” in the orphanages of Almaty and Astana.
The mentor helps the child to believe in her/himself and develop self-confidence, it helps to create the conditions under which it is possible to get to know her/himself, understand the purpose of life and learn to take responsibility for their implementation.
The project “Mentors” works in three ways:
First is mentoring of children 8-14 years old.
With children younger than 8 years mentoring is not conducted, because it is very difficult to explain the difference between a mentor, sponsor or adopter. In most cases, the baby will be hoping that this is a new mom or dad. Of course, in the project come mentors who originally already thinking about adoption or adoption, but it is not mandatory prerequisite for mentoring. Mentoring is a great model to prepare for the role of the adoptive parent, especially if it is a teenager.
Children older than 8-10 years already have the required level of awareness when you can explain that people have different roles in the relationship, there are the parents, and there are mentors. The project attracted volunteers who want to help children in orphanages, but to help effectively. The volunteers become mentors to communicate with children, make friends, and give tips and participate in the preparation of the child for adult life. In order for such a friendship was formed specific methodology. First of all there are organized large collective meeting, where for the first time invited potential mentors and children. But it is not competition, so make children sure there are a bit more of adults. At these meetings potential mentors and the children get to know each other in an informal setting game, because to become friends they need some sympathy to each other.
Such large meetings are organized several times, as the result there are a pair of “mentor and child.” After a series of small meetings, in which the child is already involved with his mentor, individual work begins. It should be noted that before the instructor begins to individual contact with the child, he must pass a psychological test and training school teachers. At school mentors study in detail features of communication with children of this age, and get tips on how to build effective communication.
The meetings of mentors and children occur in the children’s home for a while, and after collecting the necessary documents with the bodies of guardianship, there is signed “guest contract” with the children’s home and meetings can be held outside the orphanage. This is a very important part, because it is outside the children’s home the mentors are able to help the child to see the real life and to reflect on the necessary skills.
Mentors not only visit with children museums, exhibitions, some educational institutions, but also teach them elementary things like how to make purchases in the store, cook healthy meals, and learn about their professions, interests.
Mentoring it’s not just friendship, it’s a responsible job, where one desire is not enough. Children in adolescence, ask difficult questions, they are looking for help and advice not only about the choice of profession, but also in their personal matters: peer relationships, education, family, and the future – many of the things that excite them every day. To make this work successful the project builds escort service, attracts experienced psychologists and other specialists. Once a month, mentors have the opportunity to visit the club coaches, where they share their experiences and get expert advice.
The second direction is coaching, which works with children older than 14 years.
Couch is a personal trainer who helps solve personal problems and builds skills to achieve goals. Coach motivates, teaches to use time effectively, to build communication with other people. Teens over 14 often suffer from a lack of motivation, by a kind of laziness, the reasons for that may be lurking in the deep psychological experiences. According to the reports of coaches children get tired quickly, often complain of fatigue. According to psychologists, such a system fatigue of adolescents often occurs due to psychological problems: all the power goes to worrying, for example, resentment toward their parents or other life tragedy and efforts to implement their plans (training, sports) can hardly remain. That is why in the project work psychologists. With some children they work individually, with others in a group of art therapy.
The third important direction is corporate mentoring.
Companies can also be mentors. Common holiday shares and one-time activities do not help the children in their lives. So the project proposes to help the child in education, profession, search a mentor who will be close to him, even when all people forget about him. Companies have opportunity to help financially; they can also take the patronage of a group of children or one child: to arrange an internship, give a scholarship. But arranging isn’t enough; they have to help in socializing and getting useful skills.
Checklist for the possibility of temporary transfer of the child to the guest family:
- The statement about the desire to take the child into their family (in the free form. The sample can be obtained from a social worker of Orphanage);
- Copy of ID card or other identity document (presenting with the original);
- Reference, confirming the absence of a citizen convicted of an intentional crime against the life and health of citizens (both spouses);
- Address reference;
- Reference of the internal affairs bodies, confirming the positive characteristics of the place of residence;
- Copies of documents confirming the right to use or ownership of the citizen in the living room, which will temporarily be a child (with the provision of the original). In the case of rent, present a lease contract;
- Information on income (both spouses);
- Health certificate (of both spouses);
- Consent of family members on the adoption of a child;
- Certificate of survey living conditions (given by the social workers of the Children’s Home);
- Notarized statements guarantee about the safety of life and health, full and healthy nutrition of child.